When to Get Back Into the Swing of Things…?

When to get back into the swing of things..?

This is something I’m sure every new mom wonders through the sleepless nights, or when you spend most of the day soothing your fussy baby, or you want to get some one on one time back with your hubby, or you other children, or yourself. Yes mamas, me time counts too!! But how do you know when? I mean do you just decide to go all in one day and give it a shot or do you slowly gather your routine back. This has been on my mind so much lately. I really miss the things I loved to do before my new baby. I love him but I want to be my own person again and soon. I think we all need to be separate from our daily job as mom, or wife because we are more than that and I believe that gives our life a healthy balance. Maybe there isn’t a magic number of days or weeks…I’ve just struggled with this more this time around than with my firstborn. I feel like the first time I bounced right back in about a month. This time has been so much slower and I’m having a hard time remembering all we’ve been through and I should give myself grace and stop trying to force things to happen so quickly. But I’ve been going stir crazy I guess not having a single spare moment to myself. Any other moms do you feel me or agree on this? How did you get back to your normal schedule after baby? Drop a comment below and let me know what you did or didn’t do!!

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Beddy’s The Perfect Solution

So I recently found the perfect bedding solution for kids and busy moms!!! This bedding is perfect for someone who doesn’t have 20 minutes to spend making a bed. It’s perfect for little kids who like to feel secure and snug at night. My whole family is so in love with this bedding that I decided hubby and I needed our own set at well….mainly so he will make the bed… somedays!! Beddy’s is the answer. This bedding has so much detail yet it’s so simple and functional  I’ve not seen a better product on the market yet!

Beddy’s is a unique bedding set that’s super simple. It comes as one piece, your fitted sheet, comforter and no need for flat sheets or extra blankets because the inside of the comforter is lined with minky fabric. So it’s extremely soft and warm. Beddy’s is perfect for younger kids and busy parents because all you have to do to make your bed is zip up the sides. And the zippers on Beddy’s are very durable and tough. Even after daily repeated use and more washing than I’d like (because of diaper leaks..eek!) the bedding set remains in the same condition as the day I received it. The materials used for the comforter and fitted sheet are excellent quality, it’s definitely not cheap thin fabric. It comes with washing instructions when you receive your bedding so that you set the colors in your bedding. And then your good to go!

Check them out at www.beddys.com

The diagnosis 

So I have been kind of absent from blogging lately, and just posting in general. I haven’t went into much detail with anyone about my situation out of fear of people not understanding, or believing me or just judgment in general. But since I am so behind and I’m working diligently to get back into the swing of things I will make this as short as possible.

My son has always done a few subtle things from the time he was about 9 months old and on. Then around 20 months those things began to start adding up, as well as some things started going away. Basically my son always had a few little odd things I didn’t think much of…until he began to lose skills that he had pretty much mastered for his age. And I know my son extremely well we are very connected and I knew something was going on. I didn’t know what at first but I kept taking mental notes and reporting things to his dr. Looking back his dr had some concerns when he was 12 months and wanted me to try speech therapy, but I disagreed and said let’s wait and see he may begin to pick up skills overnight. But by his next big check up at 2 I began to have some concerns for more than just speech. So we went ahead and enrolled I early intervention and had him assessed. Which is a very long drawn out process but I had so many suspicions I knew it was all for the best. So we got his results and yes he did have some delays mostly in expressive language…but there were some other issues requiring more than a speech therapist so he was provided playtime therapy, speech therapy, and after further evaluation occupational therapy. And we are still learning this is by no means easy or decisive he wasn’t just seen and then us the parents given one blunt solution or answer. So I continue to learn and teach him as we go through this process. I began to notice that he was different in certain ways from other kids his age. And people kept saying oh he’s  just a toddler and he’ll grow out of it and with therapy I’m pretty hopeful he will improve. But I started to look into everything more and more and realized that he possibly had sensory processing issues maybe even ASD. Well his coordinator for EI listened to my instincts and concerns and we continued to do further testing. And while this hasn’t been quick and easy I stuck it out for Jackson so I would know how to best help him get through this. So they gave him the ADOS assessment as the final test to determine if he was just mentally delayed or had ASD. It was very in depth and I’m grateful at how particular everyone was and thorough about collecting the information needed to correctly diagnose him. Thursday the 26th a day I will never forget for many reasons. They had a meeting with me and explained in detail why and told me that they had decided to give him the diagnosis as having autism spectrum disorder. It feels good to get it out as this is not easy even thought I knew deep down. It hasn’t been easy knowing his grandparents don’t understand or feel that anything is actually wrong. At this point I feel like all I have in my corner are his dad, his doctors and therapists and my friends. Hopefully in time they will understand more and be more open minded. But I am forever grateful to have the resources and help that he may need. And I as a mother feel validated, as throughout this long journey my suspicions have been constantly dismissed by those closest to me.

Our family is now own a new path in life but I’m confident that with therapy and support we will get through this.

That’s it for now! I hope everyone has a happy and safe Halloween.

Xo xo Brandy

Friday the 13th

Hey guys I just wanted to pop in and share my quirky day so far. First I’ll start by saying I have been sick since Sunday but I’m a little better now. But anyway usually I get really nervous when we have a Friday that is the 13th. But this time I decided maybe if I don’t think about it my day will go smoothly because it’s probably my anxiety that makes the day go haywire. (Lol) Not!!! Today has still been crazy but not in a bad way. I still have to laugh because it’s rather funny how things keep happening.  Like this morning Jackson had Occupational therapy and we woke up late and I had a few minutes to get ready and 10 minutes before the therapist arrived I got caught up in the bathroom and I have no number to call and tell this lady to give me a second and I’ll answer the door. But I made it with seconds to spare, I was washing my hands when she knocked so it wall all good. Then Jackson decides to be standoffish today which is fine but he usually loves his therapists because it means play time!! On the up side he ate a cup of yogurt and some Doritos during OT which is a huge deal for him so…yay!!! Ok after therapy I find out his dad won’t be off early today which sucks because I’m still sick and need any help I can get. So moving on I let the dog out after the therapist leaves and a few minutes pass and it was raining so I let him pee in the front yard…don’t you know I’m so tired I forgot about my dog!!! So like a half hour later I realize he’s not under my feet and I panicked and call Jacob and he’s like I got him and I’m thinking he walked to your work? I didn’t realize it was his lunch break and he had picked him up down the street. Again everything is fine he’s safe so now we laugh about it. Well then I decided to let Jackson play in the tub to burn some energy since we can’t go out because it’s raining. Everything was going good and I decided to run grab his milk to give him after his bath. I come back to the bathroom in like a split second and no he didn’t drown I can see him in the bathroom from almost anywhere in our tiny house. But he had pooped all in the tub. Which he never does and I wasn’t mad but poor thing he was so upset because he understands you don’t poop in the bath. But I consoled him cleaned up the mess and put him down for a nap. And after I got a chance to eat lunch and relax I realized it’s Friday the 13th and I laughed because it has been an eventful few hours since we woke up but nothing bad. But Id love to hear more people’s Friday the 13th stories! Please share and leave a comment below. And subscribe to my blog I’ve got a bunch of products to share coming up and some fun giveaways!!! I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!!! 

x o x o Brandy